Dear Beth,
My new partner hinted that they have a foot fetish, and I don’t know what to do about it. I’ve never explored this before, but I’m willing to see what it’s all about. I just don’t even know where to start.
How do I make feet sexy?
And is it creepy that he’s into feet?
Tina K.
Hi Tina,
No need to write him off just because he gets turned on by feet! Foot fetishes are incredibly common and like other fetishes and kinks, there is no particular explanation for how they start. Some research suggests that it could be due to how our brains process sensory input. The area responsible for feet in the brain is close to the one linked to sexual stimulation, which may explain the strong connection for some people. Others may have developed their fetish from early experiences, cultural influences, or associations between feet and power, submission, or dominance.
The most important thing to remember is that a foot fetish is just another way to experience pleasure. It’s neither weird nor wrong. If you’re both into it and having fun, then it’s a good thing! Like any other type of attraction, foot fetishists are not into all the same things. Some people just love the look of feet—high arches, painted toes, or the curve of a foot in heels. Others enjoy the feel, the scent, the taste…some want them clean and fresh, others prefer feet at the end of a day. Some people may also get off on the power dynamic that foot play can bring, such as boot licking or such. The only way to know what your partner is actually into is to ask. After all, there’s no single “right” way to explore it, so the best approach is to have fun, stay open-minded, and enjoy the journey together.
But if you want to begin by dipping your toes into this (yes, pun intended!), start simple.
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go barefoot around them and see how they react
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casually rest your foot on their leg while you’re sitting together
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a fresh pedicure can be a subtle but powerful way to grab their attention
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maybe let them pick out a polish color they’d love to see on you
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play footsie under the table when you’re out at dinner
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tease them by slipping off a shoe slowly while holding their gaze
Once you’re both feeling comfortable, a foot massage is a perfect next step. Who doesn’t love a good foot rub? It’s an easy way to introduce touch in a sensual, non-intimidating way. A little warm oil or lotion can turn it into a slow, luxurious experience, and if you’re feeling playful, you can guide their hands or even let a few soft moans slip to let them know you’re enjoying it. If they’re particularly into foot worship, they may want to kiss, nibble, or even suck on your toes. That might sound unusual if you’ve never thought about feet as an erogenous zone before, but trust me—when done right, it can feel really good. The key is to stay relaxed and see what excites you both.
If you want to get a little more adventurous, try using your feet during foreplay. Running your toes along their skin, tracing circles over sensitive areas, or even resting your foot against their face can be incredibly erotic. If they’re into submission or power dynamics, you can play with a little light domination—pressing your foot to their chest, making them kiss your toes, or teasing about how much they love your feet.
And if you’re both in the mood to turn up the heat, a foot job is another way to take things further. With a good lube and the right positioning, you can use your feet in ways you never imagined, and trust me, if your partner is into it, they’ll be absolutely thrilled. And hey, you’ll get a heck of a core workout!
Any of these moments can be an easy way to gauge their excitement and perhaps open the door to a conversation. Feet are often seen as “off-limits” in everyday life, so your partner may feel hesitant or even embarrassed to fully express their desires. If you want to encourage them, try something simple like, “I love learning about what turns you on. Tell me more about what excites you about feet.” That little bit of reassurance can make all the difference and turn this into something that brings you both even closer together.
The beauty of foot play is that it can be as mild or as intense as you both want, making it a fantastic way to build deeper physical and emotional intimacy. There’s no pressure to get everything right immediately—it’s all about exploring, communicating, and having fun. Who knows? You might end up discovering a new favorite way to connect, and your partner will absolutely love that you’re willing to step into their world (yes, another pun—couldn’t help myself!).
So go ahead—kick off your shoes, get a little playful, and see where this new adventure takes you. Whether you find yourself loving it or just having fun experimenting, your openness is going to make your partner feel incredibly lucky to have you. And honestly? That’s the sexiest thing of all.
Wishing you lots of love, laughter, and maybe even a little toe-curling pleasure,
Beth ?