Ask Beth: Red Tide Rad Ride

Posted by Beth Darling on Apr 14th 2022


My GF has really long periods and never wants to have sex during them. She thinks I’m crazy because I don’t care if it’s messy, I just want to have sex with her. Is this normal? 

Tim M. 

Dear Tim, 

I’d say you’re both “normal”. Which is to say that a lot of people don’t enjoy period sex, but, on the other hand, there are a lot of people who are completely comfortable, and even enjoy the “naughty” aspect of, period sex. Perhaps it will help your girlfriend to know that, other than personal preference, there’s no reason to avoid sexual activity during your period. While obviously period sex can be a bit messy, it is completely safe. There are also some women who find themselves much more aroused and easily orgasmic during their period. 

Interestingly, there can even be some advantages to having period sex, such as: relief from menstrual cramps as a result of her orgasm; the same “feel good” hormones from sex that decrease depression symptoms also help decrease pain (headache and other) and elevate mood during menstruation; Having sex may shorten your period because muscle contractions during orgasm expel the uterine contents faster. 

Practical Hint: If y’all decide to try period sex, I suggest you do so in the shower, or protect your bed with a couple of layers of towels to minimize the clean up. Hope this helps inspire y’all to take a chance and see how you like it.