Dear Beth Darling,
I’m pregnant with our first child and the hormones are making me want lots of sex now. Unfortunately, my husband will only do it once in a while, and even when we do, he’s so careful and worried that it’s not even fun. I know he’s like this because he’s a good guy and wants to be safe, but it’s really frustrating me. How can I convince him that good sex won’t hurt me or the baby?
Allison S.
Dear Allison,
Congrats!
And welcome to the world of everything is different now, lol. But hey, the good news is, sex during a normal, healthy pregnancy won't provoke a miscarriage. So, unless your doctor says otherwise, tell your husband you are good to go.
And welcome to the world of everything is different now, lol. But hey, the good news is, sex during a normal, healthy pregnancy won't provoke a miscarriage. So, unless your doctor says otherwise, tell your husband you are good to go. (Don’t take my word for it though- specifically ask your doctor!)
Also, let your hubby know that your body is designed to protect your pregnancy, even during sex. The amniotic fluid in your uterus makes it kinda like a “water balloon”, which isn’t easy to pop, lol. Also, the strong muscles of the uterus provide a huge amount of security.
But if he isn’t sure, suggest he talk to your doctor about it so that he can get the reassurance he wants. It’s hard to believe sometimes, but our bodies are actually remarkably resilient, and incredibly well designed to multifunction- thank goodness! After all, how would humanity and our nuclear family structure have survived if pregnant women couldn’t work the fields or carry other kids around, or have sex with their husbands?
Oh, and an extra bonus that he should know is that when you are sexually intimate, your body releases all sorts of happy hormones that are good for you and thus, good for your baby. Hope this helps and you have a sexy fun loving pregnancy, and a healthy, happy baby.
Beth