Ask Beth: A Few Tips for the Fallatiophobic!

Posted by Beth Darling on Jun 30th 2021


I'm 35 y/o but have an irrational fear of blow jobs. I can't really explain it, only given maybe 5 to my ex-husband. (6 years) In the last two years since my divorce, I've tried to give a few but had some not so good experiences. I want to know how to overcome my 'fear' of blow jobs because I'm dating someone new and I know he wants them. He's not pressuring me, it's something I want to do for him, but I don't know how to without being stressed about it. How do I get over this? Lucy M.


Hooray for your determination to give and receive better love! I feel so much for your past struggles but am so confident that you're well on your way to goodness now, even if the journey isn't as easy as you deserve.

As for blow jobs, here’s my first rule:

Don’t Fake a Blow Job! (Or an orgasm, but that’s a topic for another day!)

In other words, never give a blow job if you don’t want to.

In fact, do you know that only 28% of women actually enjoy giving them? Isn't that sad? Cuz we all know that about 95% of men enjoy receiving head, lol. Needless to say, there are a lot of very sad men.