Beth!
This is my first Valentine’s Day with my partner, and I really want to make it special without
spending a fortune. Any suggestions about how to give them an amazing experience?
Romantic Rory
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Dear Rory,
Yes, yes, yes! I have so many ideas!
I think the best way to celebrate Valentine’s Day is to create a unique experience tailored to your
partner’s interests. A Valentine’s Day that’s fun, sexy, and personal will not only surprise them
but also deepen your connection. Here's the trick: pick a theme based on something they love
and design an evening that includes all Five Kinds of Intimacy.
Since I don’t know what your partner is into, here are just a few ideas that my clients have used
in the past to inspire your imagination:
1. For the Sports Fan: Super Sexy Game Night
If they’re obsessed with football (or any sport), turn their passion into a seductive, unforgettable
night.
●Physical Intimacy: Wear their favorite team jersey—with nothing underneath.
●Emotional Intimacy: Prepare stadium-style foods they love (nachos, wings, etc.) to
show them that you notice what they like and care about them getting their desires met.
●Romantic Intimacy: Set the scene with a big game playing on TV (it can be a
replay—no one’s really watching it). Create “tickets” for the night, inviting them to the
hottest "home game" ever.
●Sexual Intimacy: Get a new sexy dice or card game from Sara’s Secret to add
excitement. For example, every time “your” team has the ball, roll the dice, and your
partner does whatever the dice say—then switch when “their” team gets possession.
This won’t cost you much, but the rewards will be big!
●Spiritual Intimacy: Make sure your phones are off and lock the doors so neither of you
has to worry about being interrupted. Let them know how happy you are to be their
Valentine and why you are their biggest fan.
2. For the Music or Opera Lover: An Erotic Symphony
If your partner loves music, musicals, or operas, turn their passion into an intimate, sensory
experience.
●Physical Intimacy: Blindfold them and play their favorite opera or symphony in the
background.
●Emotional Intimacy: Tell them how they make you feel and why you like being with
them, using the music to amplify your words. Let the emotional peaks of the music guide
your tone.
●Romantic Intimacy: Dim the lights, light scented candles, and create an elegant
ambiance that mirrors their love of the arts, this will start getting them in the mood for
something special before you blindfold them.
●Sexual Intimacy: Use the music to perform a strip dance for them, while also removing
their clothes. You can allow them to touch you during this or not as you prefer. But
definitely tease and touch them! Have some new sensation objects ready to delight and
tantalize them in ways that correspond to the music. (For example, an ostrich feather
tickler might be just the thing for a carefree song, while a small paddle might be quite
fitting for “angry” tunes.) Because they’re blindfolded, each new sensation should
heighten their arousal and excitement. When the music reaches its fever pitch,
encourage them to orgasm by whatever method you like.
●Spiritual Intimacy: In addition to ensuring privacy by turning off phones and locking
doors, plan your music ahead of time so that it will fill both of you with feelings conducive
to the kind of seduction you want to create. There’s nothing worse than a sad song
interrupting a climactic moment!
3. For the Adventurer: A Romantic Indoor Getaway
If your partner loves traveling or exploring, bring the vacation vibes to your home.
●Physical Intimacy: Transform your space into a dreamy destination—hang string lights,
use beach towels, or set up a picnic with cozy blankets. These days you can find almost
any kind of background setting on your tv- whether it’s a beach, cozy fireplace or
mountainside.
●Emotional Intimacy: Talk to them about their favorite past adventures, or future ones.
Maybe even think about some that you might want to share together. Find out what
makes things exciting for each other.
●Romantic Intimacy: Create a “menu” based on the destination your trying to create. If
they adore Italy, whip up pasta and wine; if they love tropical vibes, make fruity cocktails
and fresh snacks. Dress according to the theme and adjust your thermostat accordingly.
Stripping someone out of winter gear might not sound exciting, but it can be!
Plus, I'm sure you’d have whipped cream ready for the hot cocoa, right?
Licking it off a body before it melts and drips, is always a fun game.
Getting naked and snuggling together under a warm blanket is a great precursor to the warmth of sexy arousal.
●Sexual Intimacy: Incorporate a sensory game—blindfold them and have them guess
what you’re feeding them or touching them with (chocolates, fruits, massage oils,
feathers, chains, paddles, vibrators, handcuffs…you can find all sorts of fun options at
Sara’s Secret and there’s always something to fit any budget). The good news is, there’s
no losing this game, it should be pure pleasure for both of you.
●Spiritual Intimacy: In addition to ensuring privacy by turning off phones and locking
doors, make sure that you don’t judge your partner’s choice of adventures or stories,
even if they aren’t yours. And don’t feel bad if they desire adventures that aren’t your
cup of tea- I’ve never met a couple who wanted the exact same things.
The best Valentine’s Day isn’t about spending money or planning some cookie-cutter date—it’s
about putting your heart into creating something special and pleasurable. Spend money on
things that will give lasting pleasure, don’t waste it on stuff just to check a box. When you take
the time to think about what makes your partner smile and what makes your connection unique,
you’re setting the stage for a night that’s not just memorable but truly magical.
So go all in, get creative, and have fun with it! You’ve got this—and trust me, they’ll feel the love and effort
you’ve poured into making it an unforgettable celebration of your love together. ❤️
Happy hugs,
Beth